A wedding speech is one of the most emotional and memorable moments of a wedding. Whether you are the bride, groom, best man, parent or master of ceremonies: your words can evoke tears, bring back memories and conjure up a smile. But how do you write and give a speech that really sticks?
In this article, you will discover why the wedding speech is so important and how to create a powerful, personal and unforgettable speech step by step.
Why is a wedding speech so important?
A wedding speech is much more than just a chat. It is:
- A moment of genuine connection
- An ode to love and friendship
- A story full of memories, humor and emotion
- A gift in words
For the bride and groom, it is often one of the most cherished moments of the day. Reason enough to make something special out of it.
Who gives a speech at a wedding?
There are no hard and fast rules, but often you will see these speakers:
- The bride and/or groom (word of thanks or personal speech)
- Parents of the bride and groom
- Witnesses or best friends
- The master of ceremonies
Sometimes there are also spontaneous speeches from guests during dinner or the party. Do you prefer structure? Then plan a few fixed moments in the script.
How do you write a good wedding speech?
A good speech is personal, sincere and delivered with love. Follow these 6 steps:
1. Start with a warm opening
- Introduce yourself briefly (for those you don’t know yet)
- Tell what your bond is with the bride and groom
- Start with an anecdote or quote that immediately sets the mood
2. Tell a story, not a list
- Focus on 1 to 3 beautiful moments or traits
- Use examples: “Remember when…” or “What I will never forget is…”
- Keep it light, but also meaningful
3. Be personal and honest
- Write from your heart, not from clichés
- Use your own words: it doesn’t have to be perfect, as long as it’s real
4. Add humor (but with respect)
- A fun joke or crazy moment is refreshing
- Avoid painful, embarrassing, or overly intimate stories
5. Focus on the bride and groom
- Speak to them personally
- Give a wish for the future
- Name what you grant, admire or appreciate them
6. Finish Powerful
- End with a toast, wish or quote
- Let the audience know it’s time for applause or a glass up
How long can a wedding speech last?
Ideal length: 3 to 5 minutes.
Long enough to make an impression, short enough to hold attention.
Several short speeches are often better than one long one.
Practical tips for giving your speech
- Use keywords or a small map, not a whole A4
- Practice out loud (in front of a mirror or with a friend)
- Speak calmly and clearly, even when you’re nervous
- Watch the bride and groom and the audience regularly
- Allow emotions — a lump in your throat makes it real
Common mistakes (and how to avoid them)
Too many inside jokes → Choose stories that everyone understands
Too long or disjointed → Keep it compact and logically structured
Only talk about yourself → Put the bride and groom first
Rush or read aloud → Speak with feeling and take your time
A good wedding speech is in the heart, not in the form
Whether you are funny or sensitive, an introvert or a born speaker, as long as your speech is sincere, the bride and groom will never forget it. Give yourself the space to really speak, and dare to show something of yourself. Words that come from the heart always touch.
